Adjustment and emotions / Jealousy
Adjustment and emotions
Jealousy
Understanding insecurity and its impact on linkages.
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Jealousy can arise when we feel an important relationship is at risk. In a couple, it can come with insecurity, comparisons or fear of losing the relationship. It helps to understand what is actually happening without assuming every concern is unfounded.
Uneasiness can lead to asking for explanations over and over again or to checking messages and movements. Even if it alleviates for a moment, checking can maintain concern and affect the privacy and autonomy of the other person. Feeling jealous does not justify watching, threatening or controlling.
Understand what's going on and take care of the boundaries
At ADIR, we ask what concerns you, when jealousy arises and how it affects your life and relationships. Assessment helps you understand the thoughts, feelings and behaviour involved, so we can agree a plan suited to your situation.
We can start with an individual consultation. Joint work with the couple is not an automatic response: first we have to understand the needs of each person and if there is fear or control behaviour. The goal is not that someone has to continually demonstrate their fidelity.
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Frequently asked questions
Yes. You can explain what happens to you in an individual consultation. Initial guidance allows you to assess what kind of help can make sense.
Sometimes a check calms the doubt briefly, but soon another one appears. It is advisable to explore that pattern and its consequences, without turning access to the mobile or private life of the couple into a condition of trust.
That someone else feels jealous does not give them the right to watch over you, isolate you, or threaten you. If you are afraid, it is important to be able to talk about what happens in a private space and appreciate the support you need. You do not have to take responsibility for calming their jealousy.