Adjustment and emotions / Shame
What feels hard to show or ask for.
Shame can influence how we talk, relate, or participate in social situations. We are interested in understanding what you fear others will see or think, what you say to yourself, and what activities are proving difficult.
Shame can make it difficult to ask for help, express a need, or participate. You can start with what you are not doing and how you talk to yourself when you feel exposed.
Your experience and context matter.
How you imagine that other people see you and how you judge yourself can influence the experience. The consultation can explore what situations are repeated and what effect they have on your decisions and relationships.
It is also important to know if there are criticisms, humiliations or a treatment that hurts you. Understanding shame includes situating the supports and conditions of the environment, without attributing all discomfort to a person's thinking.
Difficult situations
When you feel exposed and afraid that others will see or think.
The relationship with you
What you tell yourself when you make a mistake and how it affects your decisions.
What you want to recover
What needs or activities you are failing to express or share.
Support that takes your wider needs into account
Areas explain what you may worry about; services specify how we can work with you. Initial guidance helps connect both.
To expand how you value yourself, read Self-esteem. To explore reproaches, liability and reparation, consultation Guilt.
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Before you take the first step
Does being shy mean having a problem?
A way of being or an emotion does not define a disorder on its own. It matters how you live it, what needs you have and whether shame limits activities or relationships that matter to you.
Do I have to explain everything in the first contact?
Start with what you find difficult and any questions about seeking support. You do not need to share intimate details in the contact form to ask for information.
What if other people are treating me badly?
That context also matters. The query can pick up what is happening and what supports or changes you need; discomfort is not automatically reduced to a lack of personal trust.
We can start with what you're worried about.
You don't need to know which service to choose. Tell us your situation and we will guide you on how to start.
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